After another disappointment and parting, you again think about why you are "not those" men, and gradually cease to believe in decency, kindness and loyalty. Or maybe you yourself admit the same errors in relationships and simply do not allow yourself to be happy with your chosen one?
You initially idealize the partner
Having become acquainted with a young man, you find it interesting, and immediately think that this is "that the one is the only one." This thought becomes the main one - you attribute all the best qualities to your partner and build dreams of serious relationships.
Most girls have long have a model of an ideal partner in the head, and if your boyfriend is suitable for this ideal, at least outwardly, the rest gives your imagination.
Give yourself a time to know his character, hobbies, habits and behavior in certain situations. It is equally important to make sure that he is experiencing a response feeling for you. Love at first glance is good only on the screen of the cinema, and in life you need to listen to the voice of the mind. Much more pleasant will be gradually discovering new faces of relationships than to experience the next disappointment.
You are in a hurry with confessions
Sometimes men are not too much strive for the external manifestation of feelings and talk on this topic. If you are in love, then wait from your partner recognition, plans and promises for the future. Not getting the desired, you begin to hint, push or even demand to say the necessary words. Such pressure on a man is a big mistake, and you risk simply tweak it excessive persistence.
Interest in each other should manifest itself gradually and delicately so that both remains the right to choose. Do not fall asleep with your confessions about strong feelings, thereby forcing the same in response. Perhaps he does not experience this and might think that it does not meet your requirements.
Do not rush your chosen one. A man must solve himself when he will be ready for the next stage of relationships. Often, men show their feelings actions - care, attention, sincere interest in your business.
You do not know how to forgive
New attitudes begin with a period of "pink glasses" - romantic dates, feeling of related souls, mutual charm and euphoria. Then comes the next stage - proximity and joint residence. Then new aspects of the partner are manifested, which you could not suspect before, the first conflicts and misunderstanding. Then your view on your favorite changes dramatically, instead of finding a compromise, you consider yourself a deceived.
It is important to understand that at the beginning of the relationship everyone tries to show only their best sides, and it is quite normal. But, we all remain people with their life position and established habits. Just crossing a person from your life, you do not solve the problem. The following your relationship will not be perfect, because there are no ideal people. Just learning to take a person with all its flaws and forgive his weaknesses, you can develop your relationship further.
You are afraid of loneliness and public opinion
Since the last parting, a lot of time passed, and you still have one. Subconsciously, you lower your requirements for a possible partner, approaching those who have paid attention to you. You give a chance to a new acquaintance and gradually get used to seeing this person nearby, despite the lack of emotional bursts. Sometimes you even like this "calm" in feelings.
Later you ask yourself a question why you are near with this person, but you cannot break the relationship from the fear of new loneliness. Another reason to maintain a not very successful union is the desire of a certain position in society. Despite the equality of floors, there is still a stereotype of thinking - a lonely woman after a 30 already old Virgo.
You do not pay attention to the advice of loved ones
Your friends and relatives sometimes notice more than you think. In addition, they know you well and may notice that your partner is not entirely sincere. You, of course, will outrage, if a close girlfriend or parents begin to interfere with your relationship and criticize your chosen one. But sometimes it is worth listening to the words of people who are able to soberly assess the situation and see "from the side."
After listening to calm what they want to convey to you relatives, you can always make your own conclusions and look at your life differently. If negative assumptions are false, you will further strengthen in your attachment.
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