How to establish relationships with your loved one?

Romantic relations are not always going smoothly: even in strong pairs, quarrels are inevitable, misunderstanding or cooling to each other. The crisis situations do not need to be afraid, but it is very important to be able to go out correctly - then you can not only save your relationship, but also to strengthen them. In this article we will look at ways to establish relationships in a pair.

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Talk to souls

Often conflicts in pairs or even parting happen due to misunderstanding. People are not accustomed to openly express their emotions and discuss situations that are worried about - instead, discontent is trying to hide, the negative accumulates, and sooner or later there is a quarrel for which enough of a small occasion. Meanwhile, it is very important to share with your own experiences with the closest person, as well as learn to listen to it. To build a competent dialogue, psychologists recommend adhere to a few simple rules:

• Try not to start with mutual claims - say no about the actions of your loved one, but about your own feelings, doubts and desires. So you will give the partner the opportunity to understand better than you, so he will independently be able to adjust his behavior.
• Remember that both conflict are to blame for both: do not attempt to blame in all your soul mate. Think about what you could do wrong and what you can become better. If you find it difficult to understand yourself, ask your beloved about his point of view, but be prepared to hear and unpleasant things.
• Do not close and do not leave the dialogue. It is very important to say everything that worries you so that there is no inexpensiveness left.
• Try to choose a comfortable setting for a conversation, take an open position, try not to raise your voice. Tune in not to fight a partner, but to cooperate with it - then you will quickly and easily understand the situation.
• Do not proceed to an important conversation when you are on emotions. If you are angry, you are sad or scary to lose your beloved, it is better to wait for this moment. To begin with, rub with your own emotions alone with you. In conversation, it is better to express meaningful and constructive suggestions. If you are unnecessarily emotional, it can be perceived as manipulation.

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Find joint hobbies

Very often, the pairs that have long been together, they find out that they are already not connected almost nothing. This happens when the first stage of love passes, and the partner may seem familiar and boring. In this case, it is very useful to refresh relationships. Despite the fact that women and men usually choose different hobbies, you can find classes from which you both will be able to enjoy. For example, consider the following options for joint time:

• Go on a trip - it can be both a trip abroad and the city, so it is not necessary to have extra money for this. Joint trips strengthen relations, allow partners to know each other even better, learn how to solve household problems together. In addition, you both get a lot of impressions and have a good time with each other.
• Take a sport together. It will be at the same time to benefit, and give the charge of positive emotions. Joint classes in the gym will motivate you better, and you will also have new topics for conversations.
• Now in large cities you can find a lot of entertainment for two. For example, you can share the quest, ride horses, go to the master class on the modeling of clay or shoot a real weapon in the dash. You will surely find what you both like to do.
• In relations you need to be able to give up. Try to join the hobby of your beloved person and find interesting moments for him in our hobbies. For example, a woman can well go with his beloved fishing and nicely spend time in nature. A man can well go to the spa with a beloved and enjoy spa treatments with her together.

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Take care of the personal space of each

The joint pastime is very important in relations, but it is important and spending time separately. When partners are literally dissolved in each other, such relationships are doomed to conflicts. First, you become uninteresting for each other. Secondly, whatever your connection is, you can not be interested in absolutely the same thing, therefore quarrels are inevitable. Finally, everyone needs time to relax from any social contacts - even from communicating with a loved one. To allocate personal space for yourself, try to do the following:

• Pay time to the passion that can not interest your soul mate. For example, go to the shopping, if the beloved is not interesting, go to the concert of the favorite rock band, if the partner prefers the classics. So you can give time to yourself, your desires and interests - such a pastime will only benefit relationships.
• Read an interesting book or watch a movie that has long wanted to see. You can then share your impressions later with a partner.
• Do not limit yourself in other social contacts. Many lovers make this mistake - they want to spend time only on each other, so buddy and friendly connections with other people are gradually destroyed. Try to prevent this - communication with different people will allow you to distract from life, it is better to know yourself and expand your horizons: so you will become a more interesting companion for your partner.

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Remember why you together

At the moments of crisis, it is very important not to fall into aggression. In the end, you chose your partner and surely there are quality valuable for you. If you are angry and you can not forgive each other, think about why you should be together. You can write several reasons on paper and share with each other, go to the place where you first met or arrange a romantic date, as if you still do not know each other. All this will help you get positive emotions and refresh relationships.

Even if the crisis in relations seems serious, love can always be saved. The main thing is a mutual desire. Think about why the problem arose, try not to allow it again: remember why you fell in love with each other and give partner only positive emotions.