When the question arises, "what to do if the husband changes?", It costs to immediately ask yourself the next "and what did I do to prevent this?" Of course, no one is insured against the change. And even the most prosperous family may encounter a betrayal of one of the spouses. What if you changed my husband?
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Think that it could push it to this step / psychologists allocate several main reasons:
moral dissatisfaction in family life (every in itself, the wife is forever "saw" due to a lack of money, children do not put, so on);
dissatisfaction with sexual life when "still eat gunpowder in the porokhovnice", I want something new or just regular, and my wife is tired, she has a headache, she has no time;
the desire to prove to friends that not so old, which is not worse than others (mainly suitable for wealthy men, in the circle of which to have a beautiful and young mistress accepted as well as a good car, or for men after 45 years);
banal fatigue from monotony and serness in life, lack of positive emotions;
the unwillingness to have sex with his wife because she stopped watching and care for himself, became simply uninteresting.
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Even if you did not understand what could be the reason for treason, then for the beginning, decide for yourself: are you ready to forgive her and stay with your husband, or is the last drop before divorce. If your choice is a divorce, then there is nothing more about. But since you are reading this article, it means that we decided to stay together. Now you have to gain patience and work to repel your man back. Creams, hysterics and clarification can play a screw joke: the husband will make a choice in favor of the mistress. He leads to her, it is tasty, she is glad to see him and wants to spend time with him. Now and you will have to try on the role of a mistress. To begin with, it is worthwhile: stop walking exclusively in such a convenient home coat, but change it to any comfortable things, peignoirs, silk pajamas, if necessary - the network on the diet and start playing sports, change the hairstyle. It happens that it is no longer possible to return there, but the work carried out on yourself will only benefit you.
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Make a variety of bed. Yes, he doesn't hit the mistress to eat, not talking about souls. For example, you can try role-playing games, toys from sex shops, films for adults, etc. Do not forget that warm and comfortable pants will not cause a flurry of emotions in a man. Buy yourself beautiful underwear, stockings, garters. In the complex with a silk bathrobe and peignoir, put on your magnificent body, you will have more chances to return the spouse in a family bed and feel more confident.
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Make a variety and mutual understanding in your life. First, teach the whole family to dinner together, share your success and problems at the table, empathize with each other. This is especially true if there are children. Let the husband start to delve into their lives more, interested in what happens to them. Secondly, learn to relax together. It can be trips outside the city in nature, an ordinary picnic in the forest on Sunday day, trips abroad. You need to make a maximum effort so that the husband does not have time for his mistress.
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Do not tell anything to children and parents. You will have to work on relationships alone, the maximum is to share with a close friend, to pay it. Children are not to blame for what happened. If they are drawn into this conflict, then nothing good will come out. After all, the pain from the betrayal of the father will be with them all his life, despite the fact that your relationship will be applied.
And last: I sincerely sore him and do not blame, do not cry and do not arrange the scenes, do not press on pity. Try to just forget everything or pretend that nothing happens. Yes, it is difficult, hurt and hurt. But you are trying to keep your family, it means you will have to sacrifice your emotions for the sake of a common good.
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